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Cake day: August 14th, 2023

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  • That’s fair. I didn’t mean to imply anything about the drug use.

    The way OP views the world reminds me of how I see things when I am experiencing certain depression symptoms. I tend to filter my view of the world so that only the negative things are true, and it makes it harder to do anything positive in my life.

    When my symptoms let up, either through treatment or sometimes on their own, I can still see the negatives but they’re there with a lot of positives, too.

    If OP does have depression, it’s possible that treating it in a more effective way would be the answer to their question.









  • City.

    I want to be able to surround myself with a variety of people and cultures, while also being able to surround myself with the community that makes me feel welcome.

    Growing up gay in a rural town that was relatively progressive was still a nightmare, and the town’s best feature for me was the commuter train that took me to the closest big city.

    I love having access to basically everything relatively easily and I love having a multitude of options for all the things I have access to. Small towns can’t provide that.

    I also hate yards, though gardens are nice.

    So yeah, for me while I have found some small towns I could make work, I would always be giving up things that I value to do so. Big cities are the best, and smaller cities can be good, too, but I’m a city boy through and through.


  • For me the important difference between the two isn’t just a zoning problem, it’s a people problem.

    Small towns, like the one I grew up in, even ones that are comparatively progressive, are still a nightmare for anyone who doesn’t fit in with the community norm.

    Big cities let people find their community because therefore a lot of different ones to try.

    This doesn’t go away with different planning or by fucking cars or whatever the kids are into these days.